Life Coaching: Self-Confidence and Little Foxes

Catch us the foxes, The little foxes that spoil the vines, For our vines have tender grapes.

Song of Solomon 2:15

I do not want to get up this morning. I’m sleepy and I’m grumpy. Watch out, world!

My video this week was about self-confidence and things you can do to regain it. Is that something you’ve struggled with? What did you do about it? How did you overcome the negative self talk that persists in driving your day? I am convinced negative self talk is one of the most destructive “little fox” to ever spoil the vines. The struggle is a very real one. I’ve never met a single woman who didn’t deal with it in one way or another. Some have just learned how to shut it down.

Our spirits are tender things, sensitive to offense and sensitive to the voice of the Shepherd (or they should be). But often we have so much jabber going on in our heads, we can’t hear what God is trying to say to us. Things like l love you” and “you are wonderfully made.” Important things like that. God wants us to know that because, in some ways, we are our own worse enemy.

Today, practice this: When you begin to hear yourself tell yourself (that’s a LOT of “yourselfs”!) you can’t, you won’t, you did, you didn’t, stop for a moment and tell yourself “yes I can, yes I will, no I didn’t, and yes I did.” Tell yourself that God has a plan and a purpose in your life and that you’re living it out right now! Even if your circumstances appear bleak, your spirit and your attitude can soar, if you let them.

Look, I’m not hear to tell you everything is gonna be all right. Sometimes things are NOT all right. Sometimes those little foxes eat all the grapes, tear down the vines and spread rabies. This is fact and let’s not sugarcoat the truth. However, if we approach difficulty with the attitude of joy, peace and confidence in both God and ourselves, we greatly increase our chances for success. We can have confidence in ourselves because we can look back at our struggles in the past and say two things: 1) we made it through alive, and now we can learn from our past, and 2) We can do everything through God’s strength because that’s true and honorable strength.

Well, I’m gonna get my lazy and grumpy self out of bed and work out this morning…I can’t believe I even wrote those words, but it’s been a long time coming. Have a blessed day, fellow Ninjas!